Jenna was a 45 year old cis female who reported a loss of sex drive, not related to depression. You might be accurately thinking, that a decreased sex drive sex drive in a 45 year old could be due to a lot of things. True, but do we know what to look for as you begin the coaching journey?

Is your libido (sex drive) a bit lackadaisical? Have you been wondering why yearning has waned? Join the 1 out of 3 persons, aged 18-59, who identify as women and report a loss of libido. To many of us, this is an unwelcome change from what we previously identified as a healthy sexual appetite.

Not surprisingly and like most things, sex drive can be broken down into three basic components:

1. Physical
2. Cognitive
3. Emotional

There are many, many physical reasons for lowered sex drive including but not limited to hormonal changes, uterine changes or hysterectomy, some medications for high blood pressure, migraines, chronic pain, neurological changes, etc. A referral to a health care practitioner is in order if there are any physical concerns that need to be addressed.

Cognitive changes may result from neurological injury or may be exacerbated by stress. For example, those with ADHD may have difficulty with simply focusing on sex, making arousal and pleasure difficult.

Emotional changes, such as depression and anxiety may need to be evaluated by a health care practitioner; however, if you are managing your anxiety and depression, you can still benefit from coaching. Often coaches work alongside healthcare practitioners in helping people achieve their goals.

If you are in a relationship, and by the way, you are, because at the very least, you have a relationship with yourself as a sexual being and your physical, cognitive, and emotional health affect both you and the other.

Stress is one of the biggest culprits when it comes to decreased sex drive. Many of us find it hard to tune out the “noise” of the day. Anything that is, external or internal, causing you to change in some way, is called stress. The change causing stress may be internally driven such as pressure to be a “perfect” partner or employee or externally driven such as loss of a job. Stress can lead to fatigue and sleep problems which, of course can lead back to more stress!

Are you wondering how to wake up your yoni? Fear not, there is hope! There are new and standard treatments, both medical and non-medical, that can assist with improving libido. Check in with your coach soon…